Do I start to respond to these messages even though hes not directly telling me hes ready to commit in any way? He wanted to go first then me and the girls after. I had a talk with him and I said I love you but I cannot stay home and cry because I will not pick myself up again , I also said I belive in fate and if we meant to be we will be. You dont need anyone but your inner self. I wouldnt try to convince him to come back. Double Down On The Best Parts Of Your Relationship. You have to promise yourself not to call, write or contact him in any way. He replied with a message? unfortunately, although he said he was inspired by how i fought for him and us, he was still convinced that his decision to break up is right for both of us and he brought me my things. Then I said okay. please help! Initially he was veey rude to me and for the whole time of one month when i was chasing and begging him he kept telling me how he didnt love me anymore and i should leave him alone and move on cus he has moved on. You then have to commit to this promise. Did I text wrongly? How To Make Him Regret Leaving You | Thought Catalog I observed few months ago before our break up that he seemed distracted and less invested in our relationship. We even discussed thanksgiving and Christmas plans. Im planning to do NC on him but I dont if it will work. Because I know men are attracted to confidence You have to do all these things for YOURSELF and no one else, definitely not because men like confidence. A few days back he told me with a lot of patience that he was not in love with me and he had stopped feeling anything for me. Then after about 3 months he started distancing himself. To make your baby daddy regret leaving you, you first need to give him the freedom to experience life without you. Hello Hopefully youll find someone way better! This one is powerful because he will suddenly realize that he is losing you, for good. but his anger was always the bad thing He found a job, which is what he really wanted to do (and felt like he couldnt do while you were living together), and once he sees and feels that you love him (when you communicate with him in a friendly manner), I believe hell come back. After the second month finishes than yes, you can start answering his messages, even if he is not asking for commitment. No talk about whats next, the future etc. But when he realizes that's not true, he'll immediately regret losing you. 2. You have to let go of fear and trust your life process. I am not forcing him i never did. We were always a perfect match Im mature and nothing like most people at the age of 22. I cant say he left us because he still sees his son.. So keep your distance from him, make positive changes in your own life, and embrace the potential for new experiences. Focus on healing your depression. As we are still living together he was coming home every afternoon and he is cooking tea for us as always he plays music he dance and we laugh a lot a try to put a happy face on and not to cry etc after all problem is I was clingy etc. I obviously still love him. We still see each other like once a week, but I need to muster the strength to no longer have constant contact with him because I think Ill just end up getting hurt. He neglected my needs, emotions since I was always open and honest how I feel towards him. This way hell get a chance to see what he is missing and why he made this huge mistake. Hi Lisa, In other words, you still love him because he is a great man. I agreed that we had been with each other more than our own friends and that that needed to change so I began hanging out with my girl friends more. Hes been going out and even took a weekend vac to FL. Is he even thinking of us or hurting he has such flat affect and can keep a great poker face. It has to do with certain psychological triggers in your exs mind.