And a worse disposition. Man this is gonna fuck his adult relationships. My advice is don't date projects. Phil | 10K views, 106 likes, 4 loves, 8 comments, 4 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from DrPhil Show 2023: Dr.Phil Show 2023 - Exes at War You said "he doesn't even get to breathe" in response to all things his mom makes him do, and then when he does get a chance to catch a breath, you demand his full attention. Youve been thinking to yourself my boyfriend is codependent with his mother. I wonder if the phone call thing was just the mom asking her kid something. This is especially true if youre trying to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner while dealing with his unhealthy relationship with his mother. She found an arbitrary reason to be pissed at me (if it matters, he hadn't told her where he was one weekend when he was visiting me, and I snapchatted his sister with a picture of me and him in because I figured they knew. but it's not normal that he's can't take a set amount of time to have a private call. I read a book that talks about this from Steve Harvey. Here are six examples of mother-son relationship dynamics and their related insights. He doesn't recognize this as a problem and getting him to acknowledge that it is a problem is going to be difficult. And her behavior will likely become volatile towards you over time. No it doesnt. This is the best comment in the thread. So he is trying to get free of his mother and live his own life. that could be your future if you stay in this relationship. You can google all these terms and you will learn slot very quickly. Because OP seems to think it is, I question her version of events. Web. views, likes, loves, comments, shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Atty. If these are happening randomly at random times during busy hours it doesn't seem unreasonable that there are interruptions. WebWithdraw some of your wifely Character. who would pick up child care if he isn't there? Maybe the house is really stressed right now because of the quarantine. Unfortunately in most single parenthood situations, parents like to dump their kids on the oldest. My Husband Chooses His Family Over Me: What Can I Do? - ReGain He's a 22-year-old man. Far too often we fall into codependent roles of savior and victim to try to fix our partner, only to end up in a miserable, bitter routine. He is scared that if he isnt there for her, shell fall apart. I think that lies on BF's shoulders- to schedule time for calls when he will be free to talk. My psychologist told me that it's normal for people to have certain things unresolved with our parents, like a mother who doesn't know her boundaries and doesn't treat her son as a SON. Putting yourself in the role of "parent" and your partner in the role of "child" is demeaning and can actually be counterproductive. When he needed your help, all you did was get upset. Clifton Kopp If the lack of time spent together is a deal breaker for you, then it can be. If yes, HE needs to give his mother and siblings boundaries. You are so young and don't need to deal with this. The reason this is to encourage him to make changes is that, as Ive already said, all you can do is support him. When you meet a man, take heed of what sort of relationship he has with his mom.